"Listen up, boy. I have a few things to teach you."
Articles for you to read:
- What is "service"?
- How can I be a good bottom?
- The 12 traits of a good slave/husband
- 5 ways to recognize "topping from the bottom"
Terms to know:
Vanilla = term used to describe activities or persons not involved in the BDSM lifestyle.
Munch = A discreet social gathering of BDSM people, usually in a restaurant, with the people dressed in "regular clothing". People usually exchange tricks and beliefs about the BDSM lifestyle, in a non threatening situation. A good way to meet others in the BDSM lifestyle safely.
“Do-me” = a term used to describe a submissive that is more interested in self-gratification than in what the Dominant desires. This 'title' is not one to be proud of and that type of a submissive is very undesirable. (aka: a do-me sub)
Service = any act performed for a Dominant by a submissive that expresses respect, honor, gratitude, usefulness or submission.
Servitude refers to performing personal tasks for their dominant partner, as part of their submissive role in a BDSM relationship.
In domestic servitude roles, the submissive can receive pleasure and satisfaction from performing personal services for their dominant, such as serving as a butler, waitress, chauffeur, maid or houseboy.
Femdom = female dominance. Refers to activities where the dominant partner is female.
Dominant = a person who enjoys taking control.
Dom = a dominant who is male.
Domme = a dominant who is Female.
Note: both “dom” and “domme” are pronounced the same way, although I’ve heard some people mistakenly pronounce domme as a French word. The pronunciation is identical, by analogy to one-syllable French-derived words like femme or blonde.
CFNM = Clothed Female, nude male.
“Female-Led” = an approach which seeks a broader definition of romance by recognizing that many males want to express their male submissive sexuality by living within a healthy and mutually-satisfying relationship that is based upon male submission to a female. A Female-Led relationship should meet the needs of both the male and female. The submissive male has strong desires to fulfill the needs of a woman. The man serving a woman and dedicating himself to the woman's experience of pleasure and satisfaction is one of the important ingredients to binding couples closer together in a relationship that is Female-Led.
“Loving Female Authority” = By emphasizing the word "Loving", the male is conveying to his female partner that, while he has a desire to be dominated, he is still seeking a loving, caring and intimate relationship.
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An Explanation that I had on the website for the Femdom munch I used to lead:
A word about D/s (dominance/submission) versus BDSM:
"To some Women, being dominant means having a man at Her service for such things as house cleaning, cooking massages, manicures/pedicures, foot rubs, general domestic servitude and pampering, etc. He knows She's in charge in the relationship and he is to do as told. (dominance, submission). He does whatever pleases her or she needs done. She's the Queen of the house.
To other Women, dungeon scenes using BDSM equipment such as whips, paddles, canes and bondage ropes are their ways to enjoy Female domination. BDSM describes Sado-masochistic behaviors which are not necessarily desired by all Women who dominate men.
It is important for new submissives to realize these differences and understand that Dommes may choose one or a combination of both to achieve fulfillment."
There is nothing more beautiful and right to Me than a male submitting to a Woman. One who is focused on pleasing Her and not mainly focused on his kinks. (And I may have many kinky interests but the quality of a male, his character and his willingness to be helpful are more important to Me. And that he knows he sincerely wants a loving female-led authority/relationship in his life.)
Alright who needs a spanking on their naughty ass?
